In my household, we use negative punishment to try to encourage my daughter to behave. While I generally work very hard to reward good behavior (such as with sticker charts and treats), there are still many instances where I have to remove something she likes following behavior that is unacceptable. My boyfriend and I knew that we did not want to discipline with positive punishment, such as spanking my daughter, because we know research suggests that it does not effectively teach kids the better, correct behavior in a situation, and that it is not in line with our parenting philosophy. It is interesting though because we really really struggle with Madison's behavior, and have had many people swear that once they spanked their kids the bad behavior completely stopped. So even while it may create a fear response, it does appear to work in some situations. Our belief is that no behavior is worthy of us subjecting another to physical pain. However, I am the last person that would judge another parents choices because I feel that we are all trying our best to get our kids to be grown, happy, and healthy, all while staying happy and healthy ourselves (a feat sometimes!).
We use both time outs and introduce response costs. Time-outs, while listed as negative punishments, are in my opinion also a verson of both negative and positive punishments. It involves the removal of something fun (playing with toys, coloring, being with friends) but also introduces a new event that the individual dislikes, in order to elicit better future responses. Time-outs have been much more effective in our case that response costs.