How Does Avoidant Behavior Affect Relationships?


    Avoidant attachment behavior is defined as someone uncomfortable with being uncomfortable. Often times these types of people are not good with criticism, dealing or coping with their emotions, and the need to be independent. When someone deals with this kind of behavior, it can often get in the way of being close to another person or having an intimate relationship with a partner. Having an avoidant attachment behavior can include not being able to communicate thoroughly with another person or being inconsistent with what they say or do. This can lead to many issues when trying to go about your daily life because it will create walls that are often hard for the other person to break down. Being able to identify that one has an avoidant attachment style can be a sign that the person is willing to change and continue self-growth. 

    To grow past this kind of behavior, it is important to use self-recognition and allow others to help from another perspective. When people are in situations where they are uncomfortable, it is often hard to push past this discomfort. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is a strategy that can benefit oneself in situations one would never think could. With saying this, it is easier said than done to cope with hardcore emotions like being too overwhelmed or developing an intimate relationship with someone. Even though it can be challenging sometimes, it is important to remember that the little things count more in these moments. When someone is in the moment, remembering that it is okay and acknowledging what you’re feeling and what is going on is crucial. By doing this, it is one more step forward into enjoying interactions and life more in-depth. 


Gould, W. R. (2024, February 29). What avoidant attachment looks like in a relationship. Verywell Mind.


  1. Having avoidance behavior while in a relationship is definitely not ideal especially because there is really no one at fault, and we definitely don't want our partners to think that they are the problem when they are not. It's just hard to control. Luckily there are some things we can do to help fix that and I like how you pointed that out.


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